Are Our Children Safe? Part 3

Women Committing Statutory Rape

It’s important to note that sexual molestation isn’t indigenous to female teachers. Women in other vocations are committing the same crimes in record numbers. For example, Kristina Magnuson, 30, a Kenosha County social worker was found guilty of molesting four boys, one of which has three children with her.

In Tampa, Florida, Patricia Burmeister, 32, was arrested for picking up teenage boys and girls at bus stops. Burmeister, a mother of two, provided alcohol and pornographic movies, and had sex with the kids.

Joyce Smith, a mother of three, surrendered to San Diego police for luring teenage boys over the Internet to her home and having sex with them. They boys ages range from 14-17.

A 35-year-old New York woman was sentenced to five years of probation and designated a level one sex offender after she pleaded guilty to raping a 14-year-old boy whose child she bore.

In Conyers, GA, 21-year-old Summer Jessica Strickland was charged with statutory rape of 13-year-old Tony Goss. The couple is married now, but Strickland still faces 20 years.

A March 26 1998 UPI article reports that Rebecca S., 28, of Roseville, Michigan, and a 13-year-old boy are in love and want to get married. Rebecca is facing two counts of third-degree criminal sexual conduct.

Women and Incest

Unfortunately, there’s not enough space to chronicle all the crimes that I’d like to list to convince the general populace of what’s going on. As I said, what I list here is only the tip of an enormous iceberg.

The parents were glad to see a woman bond with their children. But Shelley, a 41-year-old mother, had a dark secret that the other parents didn’t know about. “All these sexual fantasies were going through my head when I was talking to the children,” Shelly confessed. “It was very sexual for me.” Soon Shelley began to focus on her 3-year-old son, Troy. She believes the abuse began when she continued to breast feed him when he was eighteen months old. Not long after that, her sexual urges became too powerful for her to control. “I would have him lay on top of me or on my breasts. I would put my finger in his rectum and suck on his penis.”

A December 3, 1997 UPI article reported that Maria D., 28, of Hempstead, NY, is facing charges of forcing her 2-year-old to perform oral sex.

An August 19, 1998, Associated Press article reported that a 30-year-old woman in Antioch, California was ordered to stay away from her foster son. She had had a child by him and was pregnant again with his child. She started having sex with the boy when she was 27 and he was 14. The woman said she loved the boy. “I just want everyone to know that I am not a child molester.”

It’s seems as though each time a woman is arrested for raping boys, she says she’s in love. Let’s remember that these boys are victims no matter how many men and women rationalize the crime. More important, male victims of sexual molestation are often psychologically damaged. The trouble is society still says its okay for boys and men to practice whoredom. Therefore, society sanctions these so-called harmless crimes, right up to the time that these boys become men and do the same thing that they were praised for when they were children. We can’t have it both ways. We cannot say a boy can be molested and that’s all right, but don’t you molest a girl when you become an adult.

Perhaps we need to teach our boys to be chaste instead of whorish. Perhaps we should value male sexuality the way we value female sexuality. And in this way, we can curtail the abuse that both genders suffer. If we teach our boys to value their sexuality, if we teach them that sex is a sacred gift, maybe teenage pregnancy would become a thing of the past. Maybe sexual disease would disappear. But since we allow our boys to be whores, we as a society must take a significant portion of the blame when our daughters succumb to their innate desires too. After all, girls realize that there is a double standard. And given what they’re allowed to watch on television, and listen to on CD’s it is any wonder that our children are becoming sexually active at earlier ages. If we want our children to be safe, we have to stop focusing on our females and concentrate on our males. We cannot allow adult women to abuse boys with a mere slap on the wrist. The punishment must be severe, not simply because it would be equal treatment under the law, but because an adult, in all probability, set into motion a chain of abuse that tends to expand in scope exponentially.

Statically, female pedophiles only represent three percent of the population. But is this true? Or is this something we want to believe? The truth is probably somewhere in the middle. Both boys and girls generally under report abuse. One reason for this is that the abuser swears the abused to secrecy, or threatens the victim. Another reason is that the abuser often tricks the victim into believing that if they felt pleasure from the abuse, they are accessories to the crime. Some abusers actually trick the victim into believing that they initiated the sex and they are responsible for what happened. This leads to untold psychological damage to the victim and society in general.

Consider for example, the unresolved issues that result from abused males who are now adults. Many experience alcohol and drug abuse problems. Remember Mrs. Merson and Tracie Mokry, the two teachers who served alcohol to several males students at a party prior to having sex with them? It is highly possible that these women were abused the same way. Physical abuses, domestic violence, suicide, poor relationship skills, are more results that point to the victim of an adult that was sexually abused as a child.

Imagine the horror of the pyramid prism of sexual abuse with just one male at the top. If that male abuses five victims, and each victim abuses five victims, the numbers boggle the mind. It’s important to point out that boys don’t typically report the crime. In all the examples that I cited, not one victim reported the crime. Usually, someone finds out and tells the authorities. With that in mind, imagine just how much of this is going on. What’s worse is that society is too short sighted to see that winking at this is a major contributing factor to my pyramid theory.

Tolerating female perpetrators eventually affects all of society. Erica Pratt, Tamara Brooks, and Jacqueline Marris are all lucky to be alive after being abducted the summer of 2002. But what about 14-year-old Elizabeth Smart who is still missing? Who can forget 6-year-old Jon Bonet Ramsey, 5-year-old Samantha Runnion, and 9-year-old Amber Hagerman? Sadly, we don’t realize that premature sex has profound consequences when these abused men become adults. When they become the abusers, when they kidnap our little girls and sexually abuse them, when they brutally rape and murder our little girls, only then are we outraged. But it’s too late then. We need to do something now, before another potential predator is sexually abused.

Best regards,

Keith Lee Johnson